Your Relationship Is Not The U.K Government

"Can having a best friend of the opposite sex aside your partner be termed as cheating?"

This question has been a debatable one amongst the youth in recent times and I'm going to add my voice to it. I'm no relationship expert but this just follows the principles of common sense.

First, we have to ask ourselves what is the essence of courting? Courting is the period within which two people in love understudy each other for purposes of marriage. Hence, within this period one gets to know the partner intimately - the good and bad sides.

Therefore what will be the role of your best friend of the opposite sex when in a relationship with another person?

In marriage, your spouse is supposed to be your everything - parent, best friend and anything which describes a strong bond between two people. Hence, why will you have a best friend of the opposite sex outside your relationship?

I asked Sally, "so how will you feel if your husband has a female best friend?" To which she said, "Never, I won't entertain that."

Most of us, just like Sally won't love our spouses having someone outside the relationship or marriage whom they can confide in and share certain intimate stuff on our blind side.

You see, your relationship is the foundation stage and if your partner can't have the privilege of being your only best friend, then it's a waste of time. If you won't entertain something during marriage then don't entertain it in courtship.

This is the more reason why most relationships and marriages fail. Due to the presence of external besties, we tend to find solace in them rather than trying to sort out issues with our partners.

If you happen to have a best friend like me who may be interested in you, I'll advise you in a way you'd have to break up with your boyfriend and that becomes my advantage. In the end, you fall in love with your best friend.

Once you enter into a relationship, no matter how long and close you've been with that best friend of yours, you've got to consider the fact that there's a new person in the picture and he deserves that respect or position.

Unless you're in the relationship for the fun of it, I see no reason why one should have a best friend who is not his or her partner?

Abeiku Santana cheated on his ex wife with his long time best friend wisi is now his wife. So tell me, why put yourself in such a situation and not going ahead to marry your best friend?

Most of us say the best friend is there to share certain things we can't share with our partners. Hey, hold on!! Certain things like? If you can't share jokes - and I mean all jokes, though we should be careful about expensive jokes - with partner or can't share secrets with your partner, then you shouldn't be in a relationship with the person.

I understand they are certain things your spouse may not understand like your 'bestie' will but chale..... It's a life 'distin' you're preparing for ooo......

If you can't be happy in your relationship and it's always got to be about his or her happiness and not yours, then I'm very sorry.

It's therefore sad people have mad time fun with their friends or best friends than with their spouses. It's either they're pretending or are just keeping their partners around for keeping sake.

The best marriage is when you marry your bestie - Your ride-or-die homie. Someone who can make you laugh so hard in public and you so don't care, someone whom you can fart in their presence and hold the hands to stop them from covering their nose. Someone who can make you cry but best comforts you. Just marry someone who brings out the craziness in you. You'd face issues but you guys know each other better and know how best to solve your issues.

Statistics indicates that marrying your bestie reduces the risk of divorce by 70%.

Don't make your relationship look like the UK government which has two heads - ceremonial and political heads: The Queen and the Prime Minister.

If you still do, then who becomes your ceremonial spouse and who becomes your political or administrative spouse?

Dear best friend, when you realise your best friend is going out and you've endorsed it, kindly leave the picture too. Move on with life. If you love the person, let them know. Don't endorse and break the relationship. It's evil😈.