Dear Christian Brother: Hit The Nail on the Head

Dear Christian Brɛda,

Yes, you, this letter is for you. You've been chasing this sister in the church for long but being the prayer machine gun you are, you think it's a sin to ask her out.

Brɛda, today I came to tell you to be a man. You and many of your likes find it difficult approaching ladies because you feel the moment you do, the Holy Spirit will never return to you.

Dating is not a sin. You can date and still be spiritual. There's a way of going about it. Since we hitting the nail on the head, lemme do same here.

1. Don't be a shepherd.  It's good to seek her spiritual welfare but do you want to be her boyfriend or a shepherd? Go straight to the point. Let her know you want to be her friend or you want to know her better.

2. If she allows you to shepherd her, it's not a key for you to control her life. You therefore shouldn't interrogate her on why she missed service or prayer meetings or even her devotion. Some Christian brothers tend be bossy and to an extent arrogant when they get to know a lady. Gyae mbɛlɛdze no and be romantic about it.

3. When she invites you over for a meal at her end, at least, the first day have a complimentary drink. As a way of saying, I didn't come only to eat but to establish a rapport. Compliment her after the first spoon and after the whole meal.

4. Don't show up in 'shirt and tie' unless you were returning from directly from work. Be casual, dude!! Even your favourite Bishop has a social and casual life.

5. Mind you, she invited you only. Don't go with your 'elders' and 'apostles' unless she asked you to come with them. There's something called lone moments. Use that opportunity to know her better.

6. Don't always go visiting and the days you intend on visiting her, inform her. Don't just show up at her door. Unless you wanted to surprise her. That should even be once in six months.

7. Be open-minded. Talk about other topics. It can't always be about the church activities and it's koomininis. Discuss other things. Most girls are sapiosexual.

8. Be at events which matter to her but it doesn't mean be at every event. It could be her ministration somewhere, it could be she giving a talk or something. If it's her graduation, show up with a  flower. Just show up so she knows you care.

These are the few important out of the many I could post. I'm not saying this will get her loving you but if Christian brothers could find beautiful ways of sweeping a sister off her feet, we won't have Christians divorcing more than they are marrying.

You have some more tips? Drop them in the comments section.